Pretend play in the preschool years is related to how well children understand other people. By actively engaging their imagination in this type of play, children are experiencing seeing things from another's perspective - What would the baby sister want? How does the superhero act? Why is the imaginary friend feeling that way? This is the same type of perspective-taking that is involved in empathy, or the ability to imagine what it is like to be in another person's position. Empathy is a required first step in learning to care about others...
One of the simplest ways to feel the joy of parenting or even just the joy of everyday life is by reminding yourself of the things that you are grateful for. Furthermore, writing about these things is one of the most powerful ways to anchor that feeling of happiness. Christine Carter, in her book Raising Happiness, describes a study where a group of people listed five things they were grateful for once a week for ten weeks. At the end of the study, participants "felt better about their lives as a whole and were more optimistic about their future."
There are a number of ways to track gratitude, from a simple blank journal to our current, more techno-savvy version: the iPhone app!...
Our Parent TOG pick for the week is "The Five Love Languages of Children" By Gary Chapman, Ph.D, and Ross Campbell, MD.
This book is a TOG that will introduce you to speaking your child's love language. While all of us parents know that love is the foundation of our relationship with our children, do we know which "Love Language" our child comprehends best?
"I Love You So..." is a brilliant expression of a parents' unconditional love. Marianne Richmond does a fabulous job explaining one of the most tender of all feelings: the depth of a parent's love.
I read about this fun and simple activity in Jamie Miller's 10-Minute Life Lessons For Kids and decided to give it a little spin of my own. All you will need is your love, your 3-7 year old child, and a bag of unpopped popcorn. Give it a try and get ready for some loving responses from your children!
In her book, Carter offers 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents. Her approach to parenting is simple and relaxed. She takes the edge off of parenting by emphasizing the importance of enjoyment, gratitude, and forgiveness rather than perfection and extreme discipline. She has a great sense of humor and a realistic, easy writing style.
If you could only currently invest in one parent TOG, we highly recommend that this be the one you choose. She has clear advice on how to train the habits that result in happiness and backs all of her suggestions with clear explanations of the scientific research.
Today, we're focusing on teaching our children to embrace their greatness!
What we love about all of Dr. Wayne Dyer's children's books are their character building messages and the many engaging questions that you can discuss with your children. This allows children to explore their greatness and understand their strengths. It is also a wonderful way to encourage communication and set a strong foundation for open discussion between parents and their little ones!
"My daughter Kendall, age 5, enjoys reading and is thriving to learn. 'How Full is Your Bucket' and the Wayne Dyer series of children's books opened my eyes to some of the most important things that we need to teach our children. And at the same time made me more aware that they are learning from us. As a parent you want your child to grow up with a positive attitude, a kind heart, and a keen sense of what's right and wrong. These books not only teach our children, but reinforce to us as parents that our children's character is instilled at such a young age. It is up to us as parents to give our children the proper tools and guidance. Thank you, Tools Of Growth!"