What does "COMMUNICATION" really mean???
~The way we communicate with our children has a profound effect on how they develop ~
Dr. Daniel Siegel
The word "communication" has never been used more than it is today. Every relationship in our lives is based on it! It is what we're supposed to do with our husbands, wives, parents, siblings, children, coworkers, neighbors, friends ... the list can go on and on. Needless to say, special attention should be given to nurture our communication skills with our children because unlike the rest of our relationships, with children, we are shaping their lives and influencing their development in a big way...... much larger than we can imagine!
By definition, the word communication is "to give or interchange feelings, information or the like, by writing, speaking etc." In order for the interchange to happen, the parent has to remain open-minded, open-hearted and be willing to :
1. Listen. This means allowing your child to finish their sentences before you speak your mind.
It definitely does not mean agreeing with your child in what they're saying but instead just hearing them out while they're talking.
2. Understand. This means absorbing the meaning of their words and paying attention to the feelings behind them. Many a times, children are not using the right words to express their feelings and yet they are trying to express their point of view. Understanding refers to getting to "the point that they are trying to make".
3. Respect. Even though they are children and do not have the life experiences that we do, they are still entitled to their feelings. By respecting their feelings, we acknowledge and honor their presence. This does not mean that we have to agree with them or give them what they're asking for. This simply means accepting and honoring their existence so that they can accept and honor our guidance. If you are too upset to listen or understand, respect alone, can set a strong foundation for positive communication with your children.
Listening, understanding and respecting is the integrated interchange of feelings that is at the heart of the definition of the word communication.
Research confirms that our response to our children's feelings creates long lasting memories nurturing their sense of security, and helps them improve their own communication skills which translate to success in many areas of their lives. Our communication skills help develop theirs and our relationship with them defines their relationship with the world around them.
Keep in mind, emotionally intelligent parents raise emotionally intelligent children! Emotional literacy is not taught in schools. I repeat, emotional intelligence is not a subject that they are going to learn in schools. We are their first and foremost teachers on the subject and as parents, I know that if we are aware, we will do the best job we can!
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